Could it really be that simple?

Could the answer to all of our consistency issues be right under our noses?

Why is it that sometime’s we can light up a room, while other times members of the opposite sex turn away in disinterest?

I’ll tell you the answer right now but I’ll have to explain myself for it to sink in. The difference between really connecting with people and not - the thing that every ‘natural’ is always doing in spades but can never quite put into words - is simply speaking the universal language.

Cliché tells us that love is the universal language, however this is only partially true and and isn’t helpful for people looking for the translation - the Rosetta Stone - so to speak.

I actually have to thank an old smoking habit for helping me stumble upon it. Quite a few times in college I had the pesky habit of bumming cigarettes. In fact, I did it so much that I got really good at it. I even developed my own little method.

Despite having the best method in the world, it became clear that whether or not I got a cigarette really depended on one thing:

You can try it yourself and get front row seats to the effects. First, go up to 10 people, ask them for a cigarette, and avoid eye contact and look indifferent. Next, go up to another 10 people, ask them for a cigarette - only this time look them directly in the eye and act although you are in intense pain and that they hold the key to your freedom.

Everyone reading this who’s ever been a smoker is with me on this.

When I look into the eyes of a smoker with a look on my face that he or she can fully relate to - that I really need a cigarette - they feel that same pain as they are reminded of their own times of distress. When they feel that pain and can’t help but want to relieve it in another.

Ages before complex systems of naming and describing objects came into human existence, humans beings were still communicating. Although the vast majority of us have an incredibly firm grasp over at least one of these systems, all of the communication that matters the most happens in the same way as it has for our entire existence of our humanity.

A quick look at an on-line thesaurus gives us over 30 words for ‘angry’, however if a 300lb man has the look on his face that says he’s pissed, everyone who gets even the quickest look at him is getting out of his way.

We need language to hammer out the fine details of a business contract, however how many people would actually do business with someone they didn’t trust, who didn’t give them the feeling that they had ulterior motives?

With that in mind, here’s how you always “get your openers to stick”:

The phrase, “you can tell a lot about a man by his handshake” has been around for awhile. More recently though, the phrase has been taken to advise that one should attempt to squeeze another person’s hand as firmly as possible to show how “confident” they are.

When you greet someone, you can tell a lot about them by their handshake, or more specifically, whenever they greet you in general. The ‘firmness’ of the greeting, however, isn’t how you can tell; even though a firm handshake will often happen as a byproduct.

You can tell this by looking right at the person to see if his eyes are meeting yours and if he has a look of warmth on his face. If you approach a woman, and they look at you and your eyes aren’t meeting hers (theirs) and you don’t have a look of warmth on your face, she will get the same feeling you get when you’re working with a person that you just don’t feel right about, you just don’t trust, and you decide not to work with him.

Let me make two things clear:

If you are thinking about your ‘opener’ when you approach a woman, or maybe just feeling shy, you will not be looking into her eyes, you will not have a warm expression on your face, and she’ll get that feeling that no human likes to feel.

If you start thinking about what to say during a conversation, or question whether or not she likes you, your eyes will drift, your face will become expressionless, and she will definitely get that feeling.

Plus there’s one more important factor to consider:

Women are much better at feeling this stuff than guys, and herein lies the apparent solution, and also the new problem.

On one hand - success in communication, in being charismatic or a ‘natural’, lies in your ability to express emotion vividly on your face and in turn make others feel that emotion. Without that, we’re merely self aware computers exchanging information; and the last thing a woman wants when she goes out is to exchange information - she wants to feel.

On the other hand, it’s never that simple.

Human beings, especially women, have a keen intuition for when someone has their own self interests in mind rather than hers. It’s the same as when you can just feel that a bad salesmen has his commission in mind as he’s talking to you.

It just feels off.

It’s not just selfish thinking that can give another person that feeling, it’s thinking about anything other than the person that you’re communicating with.

And you can’t just act like you’re feeling something for this to work. Try to look happy while you’re thinking negative thoughts, it’s just weird. You actually have to feel these things yourself for them not to trip her bullshit meter.

Of course again this isn’t always the easiest thing to do. Often, when we’ve been hurt in the past, we don’t put ourselves ‘out there’ as much in order to reduce the risk of additional pain. One of the ways people do this is to become more soft spoken, and to withdraw emotion from their face when they speak and “act cool”.

Most of us found out at an early age that it doesn’t really sting when someone shoots down our words, but if we put our heart into something and get rejected, then there’s a pain that can make a child cry. As an adult, we are strong enough to take this pain, but many of us fear that it will be as bad as when we were still developing psychologically.

In order to relieve this anxiety, our society has made it increasingly easier to retreat from putting yourself out there.

Email and social networking sites are amazing advancements in communications and quite incredibly make our world much smaller. The problem arises however, when we use these technologies as a form of mental crutch to avoid actual human communication.

That’s why I wasn’t surprised in the least to hear about studies that show that the people who are the most active on Facebook often report feeling the loneliest.

As easy as it would be, we can’t simply blame Facebook. How many people that you work with on a day to day basis do you try to connect with, and how many do you shoot a couple passing words to without strong eye contact and a warm expression on your face?

If you don’t do it as a natural habit with everyone you meet, it’ll be even more awkward to try and do it with women.

Pay attention the next time you’re out at a bar and here’s what you’ll see:

There will be some people having a good time. They’re laughing, moving around, speaking at a higher decibel than everyone else, and looking each other in the eyes with genuine emotions that they’re definitely feeling on their faces.

On the flip side of the coin, you’ll have people, usually around the outskirts of the ‘fun people’, who have that look on their face that they’re not quite ‘there’, that something’s on their mind, and that it’s probably not the most positive of things.

It’s easy to identify these people, their faces are are lacking all but forced acts of emotion, they’re not moving, even if they are talking to a friend they look as though they’re not really enjoying the conversation, they’re eyes are looking down more than at their friend, maybe they’re looking at their phone - not really to communicate with an absent friend, but simply to take their mind off of the anxiety they’re feeling.

The thing is that they came to the bar for the same reason as everyone else.

They want to be the ‘fun people’. Just about every person has been there before and it’s amazing. You’re having the best time, lighting up emotionally, talking more loudly, and of course attracting more of the opposite sex than ever before - you’re “in the zone”.

The next morning though, we’re usually a bit hungover, we know we just had the most amazing time the night before; the only problem is we can’t remember how to get that back. We search high and low, trekking out to the bar night after night - both men and women - and start drinking with our fingers crossed that it’s going to happen again, maybe with some lines that we believe will do the work of getting it back for us.

The thing is, we know how to get that feeling back, we’ve simply forgotten.

When we see a baby crying or smiling, only the most emotionally checked out people cant help but feel upset or happy, respectively. When we see genuine emotion in another person, we can’t help but feel the reflection of that emotion in ourselves, and we subconsciously drawn to those who make us feel positive emotions, and repelled by people who make us feel negative emotions.

Love-hate relationships are especially dangerous because they literally tear us apart.

Now here’s the fun effect of all of this:

By looking straight into another person’s eyes with genuine emotion while focusing strongly on her emotions - unless she’s feeling an equally strong negative emotion - you will cause her to feel that emotion and  subconsciously become more drawn to you. If you don’t, she won’t. This should clear up any questions routine guys have as to why they’re having inconsistency issues. Sometime’s she’s feeling you, literally, sometimes she’s not.

Upon first developing this ancient skill, one will often feel awkward or clumsy with it, as with any other skill they would develop. With practice though, things slow down.

People will say that you give off this energy, and it’s as if you can read their mind, probably better than they can read their own.

It’s what every natural is doing without knowing it - and through this development than one can become a natural.

Because it is a skill that, like any other, takes practice; one should practice as much as possible. Start with family, friends, co-workers, people at the corner store, everyone. Soon people that have known you forever will be saying those words that we all love to hear:

“There’s something different about you”.

When you go to the bar, instead of scanning the bar for an ‘HB9′ that you can approach in 3 seconds or less, get in a circle with your friends and do what we at The Social Man affectionally call the ‘bro circle’. Whether there’s 2 or 10 of you start emoting. Remember, you’re only as strong as your weakest link, so make sure that everyone is pulling the line. Talk at a higher decibel, move around, talk with your hands, have looks of genuine expression on your faces and look each other in the eye.

The great thing about this is half the time, you forget about the bro circle and actually have fun with your friends when one of you remembers this story you forgot to tell - by acting as though you have emotion you’ll actually feel the emotion. Try smiling for a minute and not feel happy.

Then you’ll start to notice the looks.

All of the girls that are around the periphery will start emoting, themselves.

They’ll talk more loudly, move more, have more expression on their faces, and yes, start to glance in your direction. They now want you to approach them.

They probably don’t rationalize what just happened. But they felt a little hint of that feeling they all came to the bar in the first place to feel, and they’re drawn to it.

Don’t get me wrong, social skills in approaching strangers and escalating interactions are very important skills to develop, and that’s why we’ve developed ‘Say Hello’ and ‘Irresistible’, however if you’re not developing this universal skill that will allow you to powerfully communicate with anyone, anytime, anywhere, then you’ll always face inconsistencies in your interactions.

Also, don’t be surprised that when, through tapping into this, you re-realize your infinite power to strongly connect with anyone, and things start going much better in every other aspect of your life.

As you begin to pay attention to everyone again, you’ll notice that the majority of us are a bit withdrawn and often appear anxious or lost. There is no better time to remind people of what we are all looking for.

Before we’re all on “2nd Life”, remind people that the answer we’re all looking for is right in front of us, and yes, don’t be surprised when you’ve loved a woman or two along the way and your friends in the community say you look like a natural.

The title of this post may be a bit misleading as my favorite opener isn’t really something you say at all, but rather what we at The Social Man call a pre-opener. That is something that you do before you even strike up a conversation that will maximize your chances of having a successful one. 

It all starts out with your confidence and body language. You have to be beaming confidence, standing up straight, moving as if you’re not in any hurry at all, and possess a smirk on  your face like you know something no one else does (credit: David D). More importantly, you must strive to make eye contact with everyone you’re moving past.

Once you are  doing this consistently and naturally, you will be amazed at how many people return the contact and hold it. Now you don’t want to be creepy, so here’s what I do. If it’s a guy, give him a nod and move on (unless that’s who you’re looking to attract of course). Now, if it’s a woman I’m attracted to, I’ll do some sort of pre-opener. Some examples of these are as follows:

1. Shift from my smirk to a somewhat puzzled look. It’s the look you get on your face when you either recognize the person from somewhere but can’t remember where or the look you have when you wonder why someone’s staring at you. I then simply walk up to her  while holding this look and say either, “wait, where do we know each other from?”, or “I’m sorry, you looked exactly like a friend of mine”, or “do we know each other?”. Then conversation starts as normal.

2. If I’m in a playful mood I’ll shift from my smirk to a scowl, like I’m playfully mad at her. 9 times out of 10 she’ll return that scowl. I’ll respond with a laugh and go talk to her as she’s won me over with her fun playfulness.  

3. Really the possibilities are endless. You can mouth “I love you” with a laugh, give her a wink and a point, or stick your tongue out. Get creative, have fun with it and you’ll see some great responses which will make it hard for you not to start a conversation.

If I could only survive on one opener for the rest of my life this would be the one. As long as your vibe and energy are on it’s easy.

I really felt the need to tackle this topic because of all of the information out there that I consider to be misguided. As of right now, the most common solution to this phenomenon is to “freeze out” the girl. More specifically, when the girl starts to hesitate to sleep with you, you are instructed to turn cold, stop all physical contact, and do something else, possibly check your email.

This method was developed by Neil Strauss and is  so prevalent because it actually works. Now, I have more respect for Neil than probably anyone else in the pickup community and in no way mean to disrespect anything he’s ever done; mainly because I have not contributed so much to nearly as many people has he has.

Here’s the problem I find with it though: although it works, I can’t help but find it kind of creepy and just don’t feel comfortable doing it. 

So how do I handle last minute resistance? The answer is, I don’t, and if I ever encounter it I feel as though I simply didn’t do a good enough job before she got into my bed in the first place.

What you have to do is build up enough sexual tension so that when you enter your bedroom, there isn’t a question on either of your minds what will be happening.

So how do you do this? First off, don’t forget that women are sexual beings. They want to feel sexy and be swept up in a whirlwind of romance and seduction as much as any man; the thing is that because of social constructs, many women feel uncomfortable leading things there. That is why it’s your job… as a man, to make sure this happens, otherwise she’ll just have to find a man who will. Simply showing that you’re comfortable discussing sexual topics and to do so is the easiest way to accomplish this. So ask about the best sex she’s ever had or her favorite place to be kissed. Of course make sure you have enough comfort with her before you do so but don’t be scared to talk about sex. As mature human beings it’s perfectly acceptable to do, despite what some of the things you’ve been told in your life tell you.

You also have to be direct with your intentions. The “freeze out” method is a perfect example of why I tend to stay away from “indirect game” as much as possible. It almost seems like you’re tricking her to come home with you. In that case of course she’s going to resist when you’re making advances.

One of my favorite things to drop in conversations is: “I have to tell you a secret. I just had a dirty thought about you.” and then of course to tell her what said thought was until later in the conversation when I feel the need to “sex it up” again. This is just a little example but the point is that you should be making her feel sexy and desired, the way any human being wants to feel. If you don’t make sure she knows with words or otherwise then she’ll start to question what it is you really want, and the more any person has to think about something the more of a chance it will rule you out to protect their own feelings. The human mind is a crazy thing.

Now you don’t want to talk like a guy, i.e. “I want to fuck you right now”. Instead, you want to sound more subtly descriptive like a guy in some chick romance novel, i.e. “I want to rip your clothes off and kiss every inch of your body”.

Girls love to talk about sex, probably more than any other thing. If you show them you’re perfectly comfortable with the subject and not some dirty perv who never has any, then they’ll appreciate talking to you about it.

The second half of this is making it clear that you’re the one who makes the decision . The whole idea of last minute resistance carries with it the frame that she is making the decision on whether or not you are having sex. This is flawed from the very get go. 

I’ll always say something like: “You can come sleep at my place, but don’t try any funny business.” The 5 date rule is another one of my favorites. I’ll tell her “I won’t sleep with a girl until the 5th date”. You want to let her know that you have standards, that you won’t just sleep with any girl, anytime, anywhere. Shit… while you’re at it, this may be a good time to start having standards with who you sleep with. 

Back at my place, I’ll advance a little, then tell her to slow down. This usually isn’t hard since by this point she’s doing more than her fair share of advancing. You have to get it to the point where you’re trying to stop everything from happening, but you just couldn’t help it any more because there was so much sexual magic in the air. Remember, the slower the seduction the more enjoyable it is for both of you. Often a time I won’t sleep with a girl because I know it will be so much more passionate if we wait. You shouldn’t need “another lay” to validate yourself here guys.

When she’s charged full of sexual energy, she knows that your a guy who is very much attracted to her, and  who’s main goal isn’t to have sex but to create the most amazing experience for both of you,  see how many times you’ll run into any last minute resistance as she tears your clothes off. 

Let’s start with some fun openers:

First, here’s a basic one that I’ve used with some great success. I’m sure that this one or a close variant of it has been brought up before but, eh… whatever. You and your friend are discussing something and need some outside help, so of course you go to the large group of attractive girls to get it. The question, what is hotter, boxers or boxer briefs?

Certainly didn’t take a genius to some up with that and I’m not expecting anyone to be blown away. But this works for a couple reasons. First of all, you can rule out briefs altogether as most women (for the time being) aren’t really into them. Second of all, I’ve found that women are truly torn on this , and 99% of the time you will create good discussion within the group of girls on the topic… kind of like Sex in the City.

Next, I got this one from my wing and it works wonderfully for large groups of girls, usually 5 or more. He simply goes up to the group sitting at a table, kind of lean on the table without saying much, make eye contact so they that are all thinking, ‘who the hell is this guy and what is he doing here’, and then delivers, “so which one of you is getting married?” After they show a bit of confusion he continues, “with all of you girls out together I figured it must be a bachelorette party or something”. Girls laugh, open up. Simple.

Finally, the no talking opener. I was walking to the bathroom and make eye contact with an attractive blonde. I give her a pursed lip look like I’m suspicious of her, then form a slight smirk on my face. At this point she grabs me and starts making out with me right in the middle of the bar.

Now, I use the “no talking opener” to highlight a point because frankly, that’s not going to get the same results consistently, not even for me.  The point is that it really doesn’t matter what opener you use if your body language and tone of voice aren’t on par. As I’m sure most of you have heard, non-verbal communication is 93% of our communication. 93 f-ing %. That means that what you say matters little compared to how you say it.

The last point I want to make is that you have to be genuinely interested in what you’re talking about. Approaching a girl with a topic that you’re genuinely interested greatly affects your non-verbals compared to using a canned line you read on a website. The boxers/boxer briefs line was so effective because my friend and I were just discussing it so we came off as being genuinely interested in their answer. A student asked me how many days he should wait to call a girl. I told him to ask the experts and he had staggering results with the women he asked.

The vast majority of openers I use are spontaneous things that just happen to be mind at the time or something obvious that I infer about them or the environment that I want to talk about. Don’t be the guy sitting around talking about beautiful girls at the bar. Those guys never go home with those girls. Instead be the guy talking about something fun and interesting that will appeal to those women.

Do you ever stop to think to yourself: “What should I say to open this set?” or, “What is she thinking about me right now?”

If these thoughts ever cross your mind, you are setting yourself up for failure before you even approach. Why? Because you can learn every great opener, have tons of routines down, and know the right answer to every shit test out there, but if you don’t have the right mindset and frame going in, it’s all worthless. Women want a guy that’s so confident in himself that it shouldn’t matter to him what she thinks. 

 So I could end the post right here and leave you all thinking, “thanks a fucking lot for that info Nick” while rolling your eyes. The reason being is that it’s not that easy to not care about the outcome. Men have to deal with approach anxiety and thousands of years of evolutionary DNA sabotaging us by telling us that we should care.

So here’s how to fix it. Get together with your favorite friend or go it alone, and have a “bombing night”. Make it the point to strike out with as many sets as possible, all the while not caring one way or another what they think.

I did this for the first time with a client last night and the results were incredible. For starters, we had the most fun either of us could remember having. We danced like retards and loudly sang along with the music. As my client opened and bombed more and more sets, it became more and more apparent to him that it really didn’t matter. There’s a million girls out there.

Another great thing happened. We got more and more creative with our openers. At first we started with “I think you’re pretty but I’m really shy and I just wanted to tell you that. I’m going to go now”. He came up with the brilliant line of, “I’ve got this rash forming and was wondering if any of you had any advice”. We would go up to random guys and ask them what we should say to bomb. The most creative of this was to offer a beautiful young girl money for sexual favors.

As I pointed out to him, not only were we having the best time there, but we were also by far the most social people there. Openers just started working even if we didn’t want them to. It’s easy to come up with something to say if you don’t care about the results; if you just do it for you.

I saw a more dramatic shift in the vibe, energy, and confidence in my client than I’ve ever experienced before. So go out and bomb- and have your best night ever 

Here’s another move that was used with very good success last night.

Now normally I don’t advocate this, but walk up to a girl, and start with a compliment. If she has great hair, compliment her on her hair. Great eyes, compliment on the eyes, mouth, ears, ass, etc. Make sure it’s some physical quality of hers. 

Here’s the catch: Have the frame that you’re only interested in her for her hair, eyes, mouth, whatever. Kind of like you’re just using her to get to her best feature. 

For example. “You have ridiculously beautiful hair. I mean, you’re nice and all, but I’m really only interested in your hair. I’d like to take it out sometime. Can you ask your hair a question for me? I’d like to take your hair out to a nice dinner and maybe some dancing. Is there any way that I can set something up with just your hair? Oh… well I guess you can tag along if you’d like, I just hope you don’t mind being the third wheel…”

Possibilities endless. And you don’t say this all at once, but rather, drop another line every so often in the conversation- almost like you can’t help it. If she’s younger you can even channel some Ron Burgundy (you have a magnificent heiny) for added humor. 

The tone in this frame is a very playful one…  like you’re out to entertain yourself more than anything. You can’t do this seriously, otherwise you’ll be a guy who collects hair in his closet. Of course you still have to make other conversation and not be a one-trick-pony. But if done correctly, you’re coming off as a fun, playful guy who is different than any other man out there. 

Big added bonus: I did this last night and now have a “Carrie’s Hair” saved in my phone. How easy will it be to recreate a fun vibe when I call her asking if her hair is available? 

Last night I was at a local bar and was talking to some friends in the DJ booth. As we were talking, the guys start talking about this one girl they noticed in the bar. They began talking about how she was the hottest girl in the place and slightly more detailed things that guys have a tendency  of saying when talking to other guys about girls they will never talk to. 

They weren’t joking either. This blonde was wearing a short gold dress that hugged her body just right to show off all of her wonderful curves and had an angelic face that complimented her body perfectly. She was definitely using her god given gifts to get the attention of every guy in the place. 

Now the guys were aware of my blog and  started challenging me with “come on, let’s see what you’ve got” and “you say all of this stuff, why don’t you prove it”. Well… I’m never one to back away from a challenge. The DJ tried giving me advice and said “I’ve got the perfect line. Go up to her and say, it’s a beautiful night because you’re here “.

Now if you’re a DJ, or someone with high social status like Brad Pitt, or you’re in a mode of super confidence and energy, then this line may work for you… hell, any line would at that point. I however, had none of those things going for me at this time. 

She was with 3 other girls, 2 other cute girls and one not so much. I walk downstairs and up to the group with a nice loud, “Hey guys”, with great tone, body language, confidence, and energy. (I really can’t stress this enough) ”I need your help with something. My friends up there”, motioning to the DJ booth, “were trying to figure something out. We have this female friend and we can’t tell if she’s a lesbian or not. Do you guys have any female things we can look for to know for sure?” 

The girls didn’t really have any advice on this one and it didn’t matter. They were all engaged in conversation. We talked about the subject for a bit and I made sure to address them all equally. Some things that naturally popped up were: “well, with a guy it’s easy to tell. If he’s eating soup and says that the soup tastes just like semen, he’s probably gay”. They got a laugh out of that line. The blonde asked if our friend was sleeping with any other guys and I said no, to which she concluded that she’s probably gay. I took this as the perfect opportunity to give her some shit. I teased that, in her mind, if a girl wasn’t hooking up a-lot, then she’s gay and that I loved how much that said about her. Her friends all laughed again and I started talking to the blonde exclusively.

I quickly changed subjects before it got boring and told her that she had to be from the midwest. She started saying how I had some psychic powers and that I should tell her some more about herself. Instead of doing what she said and trying to show off like any other guy would, I turned it on her and told her to try and guess some things about me. 

At this point she was clearly interested. She had removed herself from her friends to talk to me exclusively, her body language was directed right at me, and she laughed at things I said even if they weren’t that funny. I then began asking her questions about herself to let her know that I don’t  just go for any girl. When she said something that I was into, like the fact that she was an accomplished sailor, I showed interest in her to let her know she was winning me over. 

After a little more of this I said to her, “I’ll tell you what, you seem pretty funny. If you can tell me a joke that makes me laugh I will buy you a shot”. She went on to say, like most girls, that she doesn’t know any good jokes. I then took a risk and said that I was going to talk to some friends at the bar and when she thought of one she could come tell me.

So I walked up to the bar and started making conversation with some randoms. As this was happening, I noticed that she had re-mingled with her friends and didn’t appear to be rushing to the bar to tell me a joke.

Now my risk paid off and it didn’t. On one hand, I was really testing her to see if she’d come to the bar to impress me with a joke. Although she didn’t do that, my risk at least established that I had other things to do than talk to her, that it didn’t really matter to me whether I was talking to her or not, and that I would  ask her to do things that other guys she just met wouldn’t dream of. I was different.

A couple minutes later her and a couple friends came up to the bar. Was I just going to let it go? Did I mention I liked a challenge? I started back at the beginning and opened the group with a good conversation starter. My friend at OSU just sent me a sassy text about how she had just hung out with Jim Tressell. Now, in Ann Arbor this posed the obvious question: should I ever talk to her again?

The girls were once again engaged in conversation and I once again was able to get a one on one with my target. “So, what’s the joke?” I asked. She replied, “I’ll tell you what. I’m going to give a joke from a movie and if you guess what movie it’s from, I’ll let you buy me a shot.”

Quick tip, whenever a girl says the phrase, “I’ll let you buy me a shot”, Start laughing immediately. I did this and responded that she wasn’t going to “let” me do anything. Beautiful women like to test guys to see if they’ll do their bidding just like every other guy. Don’t do this.

I reconstructed the deal to be that if I could name the movie, she’d have to buy me a shot, but if I couldn’t, then I’d buy her one. She told the tomato joke from Pulp Fiction only she did a great job of messing the joke up. After teasing her for this I named the movie and “let” her buy the shot… tequila. 

Of course you can’t lick the salt off of yourself when doing a tequila shot right? 

After the shot I told her about this VIP party I was throwing and how I would love to have her there so we exchanged numbers. I named her “Laura lame joke” in my phone and made her come up with an equally creative name for me.

After that, I chatted with her for a couple more minutes and got some very strong physical contact and eye contact going before excusing myself to re-join friends. 

The guys in the DJ booth, who were watching the whole time, are now looking forward to a workshop.

Everyone knows the best place to meet women is at bars or clubs. There you’ll find women going out with the purpose of meeting guys.

 But where is the best place to meet women during the day? The answer is your local bookstore. Whether it be a Borders or Barnes and Noble or whatever, nowhere will you find as many beautiful women who are almost to the point of aimlessness and who can’t wait to be entertained.

 Just today I made a trip to the bookstore to see what was new in the world when I notice a beautiful blonde sitting in one of those big comfy chairs reading some women’s magazine.

I make my way over to the art section, because if you weren’t aware, 99% of beautiful women are into art, and grab a large book on photography filled with pictures. I then calmly sit next to the blonde and begin flipping through my book.

 Then, completely spontaneously, I begin asking her on her opinions on some of the pictures in the book, with a great energy and vibe of course. This is one of easiest ways to start a conversation with a woman during the day. It almost isn’t fair. 

After making more interesting chatter I got Alexis’ number, made sure she had mine saved, and left after a few more minutes of conversation.

When it comes to places to meet women, bars and clubs may be on the top of the list, but the bookstore isn’t far behind.